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When Life Gets in the Way of Writing

Happy Sunday, writers! I hope you are all well.

I am having a nightmare couple of weeks for writing at the moment. I have so much uni work to do, my job has been tiring me out and there are many festive events to enjoy and get involved in! As such, work on my novel has been scarce.

It’s because of this that I wanted to write a blog post about that horrible feeling when life gets in the way of writing. I always feel a bit deflated and kick myself for not making progress. I’m sure you can relate.

Previously, I posted a blog about how to fit writing around your busy life, as well as one about how to beat a writer’s slump. I hope you can find them useful. Today, however, I want to focus on what you should do when writing takes a back seat to…well…life!

1. Be Kind to Yourself
Writing a novel isn’t easy and you should always treat yourself with respect and patience when you struggle to make progress. Try not to feel as though you’ve let yourself down or that you’re not committed. Sometimes you just need to focus on other things without the demand of sitting down and writing. It’s okay to take a break. Relax.
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2. Set a Goal
If you do need to take a break, especially at this time of year when there’s loads going on, then do. But set yourself a goal to get you back on track. Simply “I will start writing again by the following date…” can be a great way to make sure you don’t spend too much time away from your work. It also helps you to feel less guilty, as you know exactly when you’re getting back to it.

3. Make Notes
You may not have time to sit down and write full sentences but make notes whenever you can. While showering, cooking, walking to work etc…. think of your story and your characters. Ideas will pop into your head at anytime and making quick notes to write into the story properly at a later date is a good way to keep yourself on track.

Does anyone else experience the guilt of not writing? Or have any tips and techniques for keeping on track during busy times? I always love hearing your thoughts, so please comment below.

Until then,
Keep writing

19 thoughts on “When Life Gets in the Way of Writing”

  1. Definitely feeling over par this weekend. Life has not only gotten in the way this past week, it had damn near blockaded me with a fleet of Star Destroyers. Oh well, it happens. Gotta work harder next week.. πŸ˜€

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  2. All very good points. If you aren’t a writer as your main profession, then life and work and other stuff will encroach, and it has to be dealt with. Dishes can’t go unwashed forever, you can’t ignore friends and family all the time, and they expect you to show up for work and put in a full day. In the US, from just before Thanksgiving until after New Year’s Day, there is usually a lot going on and people should just accept that they need a brief hiatus. As you said, plan your return for when you know things will ease (most people claim Jan & Feb are slow and dull after so much hustle and bustle). If you are a professional writer, there may be deadlines you must meet. But if you can slip in some “fun”, it just might refresh your spirit and make it that much easier to push forward later.

    A very timely reminder to all of us, writers or otherwise.

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    1. Thank you for your comment. Very reassuring and you make lots of great points. Hoping to get my self going again in January, for sure. Best of luck to you and have a wonderful Christmas and New Year!


  3. I’m currently in the same boat with my novel writing, but I’ve been getting some words in here and there! Sometimes, I think I bite off a bit more than I can chew, but then I kick myself after! But your right, we need to treat ourselves with respect and a little patience, and I think, this weekend, I’ve started to realise that a bit more! Sending good vibes over to you! The struggles of life are real, and all we can do is keep pushing through!!

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  4. I was talking to a friend about this recently, who’s been totally overloaded for a few months. Writing is supposed to be something that lifts us up and makes us feel great (even for professional writers), but sometimes life has other demands, and you should never feel guilty for attending to other things when you need to. After all, a healthy, balanced life doesn’t mean you should feel guilty when you can’t write!

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  5. Great post! Yes, I feel guilty if I don’t write, and love your tip
    of setting a date to get back into writing instead of letting it get you down. My tip would be to get up early if you can and write before life takes over.

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